Yule. That’s perfect, in a way, for now. In my tradition, such as it is, Yule and Solstice are at the darkest day, yet celebrated as a reminder that, though we know it will become colder and harsher yet, there’s still a promise of the light returning. In some versions, which I think is especially […]
Dirty Snowballs and Distant Infernos
Something I made to wish everyone a bit of peace, a bit early… It’s a troubled day, to be certain, so perhaps this was a little more timely than it was even originally meant. I often take great solace in just how much universe there is, and how beautiful it is. And every so often, […]
November the Twentieth
and once a year we count our slain and one a year we say their names and another year gone and others gone some saw in them the faces of demons we are not your demons we are your mirrors and once a year we count our slain and once a year we say their […]
With Love
What comes to mind when you hear, “When they go low, we go high?” Playing nice with the opposition by gently telling them they’re loved and they could do much better than the current outrage they inspire? Probably something like that. It can descend into well-meaning tone policing. Let’s talk about what that phrase. I […]
Safety Work, Even from Words
If I’m in a debate, and suddenly I stop to correct the pronouns of a trans person that has been brought up during the conversation, and entirely change my tone, it isn’t to change the topic as a diversion. It’s to ascertain whether or not, if I met you on the street, you would constitute […]
Help them out?
I was reminded today, by a friend’s coming out day post, that there are health benefits to coming out. I was reminded a few days earlier by a separately helpful friend that there are a few ground rules for coming out day that need be observed and aren’t always. First, never out anyone for them. […]
Casts, Molds, and Breaks
So… Since I was asked elsewhere what the issue is… Production companies constantly make the mistake of casting people of a hegemonic majority while ignoring qualified (or overqualified) people of the minority of the role being cast. White people cast as Asians. Or blacks. Het people cast as queer. Cis folk cast as trans folk. […]
Are we all …? Are we?
Wondering if there will be calls and banners, “We are Pulse”. When they come for a gay night club, “We are all gay.” Wondering if there will be calls and banners, “We are all Latinx”. It was Latinx night at Pulse. I feel just nauseous even wondering. It forces tears into my eyes. It’s not […]
Make History
There’s but one problem with the phrase we sometimes use to decry bigotry, “standing on the wrong side of history.” History is not inevitable. There is no unavoidability to the long line of human progress over time towards a more just society. We become a more just society because of innumerable contributions, small and large, […]